I find as I am getting older (40!) and there are so many demndas on my time, I feel very choosy about who I spend time with. I ask myself: Does this relationship feed me? How do I feel after I’m with this person? If the answer is bad , or drained , I do what I need to do to distance myself. I used to spend so much time trying to psychoanalyze the situation and figure out what I could do to make it different. Now I am much better about moving on. No hard feelings. Just taking care of myself.
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I find as I am getting older (40!) and there are so many demndas on my time, I feel very choosy about who I spend time with. I ask myself: Does this relationship feed me? How do I feel after I’m with this person? If the answer is bad , or drained , I do what I need to do to distance myself. I used to spend so much time trying to psychoanalyze the situation and figure out what I could do to make it different. Now I am much better about moving on. No hard feelings. Just taking care of myself.
It’s always a relief when someone with obvious expertise answers. Thanks!